GENTLE READER: It is to our credit, Miss Manners believes, that Americans have an awkward relationship with those who serve or clean up after us. That is why we sometimes use the term “help” for such workers, as if they are merely kind people volunteering to lend a hand.

My daughter is a personal chef for a family of four. The problem is they interfere with her work by trying to socialize and interact while she’s cooking. What advice can I give her?

My daughter is a talented chef. She has a job cooking for a family of four. They appreciate her food, are not too terribly picky, and pay better than her former thankless jobs in “hospitality.” The problem is that their kitchen is simply one area of a large,